Keith & Mike

Monday, April 09, 2012 12:07 AM | Debbi Lester (Administrator)

"The way I see it," Keith says, "if you have a wedding to plan, you shouldn't have to do any other work for months!"

I've seen Keith in action. He's a professional choreographer. I'm pretty sure he'll compose his wedding much like he would a dance. He's not going to measure the stage, he's not going spend big on costuming, he's not going to mark the lines of sight with stage tape. He's going to choose the most amazing music and believe!

"And you know how Mike is." (Mike is Keith's partner of twenty years.) I nod.

Mike is a lot like my husband. Can't remember a thing. My three ways of asking him to do something are voice, triple emails, followed by threats.

"I can't leave any of the details up to Mike other than he better find a pair of acceptable earrings. Preferably, two 14 karet balls." Keith winks.

Again I nod, a little more eagerly this time because I, too, married a fourth-generation WASP. Always the writer, I think of our coupling like so: I am the exclamation point, Larry is the comma. Unless a tragedy occurs, then, for whatever reason, we switch. But normally, you should not expect too much emotion from a comma. (Oh, the words I've used over the years to distinguish between us. Does the whole world, gay or straight, fall in love with their opposite?)

Keith and Mike are off to their home state of New York to wed.

Keith and Mike, two men that are part of something much larger than themselves, making history through acceptance, moving on, refusing to conceal their love. Maybe it's because I've watched them work it out for so many years that their marriage feels more like the great BIG check mark for our country that it is.

"Why does it even feel so important to say the two silly words: I do?" Keith asks. "Because if you've been together long as we have, everyone knows it’s more like I do NOT. Especially when it comes to yard work." We clink glasses.

When Keith is finished telling me all about the wedding, I hold his two hands safely in my own and kiss him on the cheek. He kisses me back and gives me another wink. "Bella." Every time he calls me this, I fill with the most satisfying sense of well-being and I'm grateful this kind of intimacy is easy between us, part of our whole splendid package.

After two decades together, Keith and Mike still hold hands.

Even at the grocery.

Keith and Mike. They don't have a lot of money. Love is the thing they have, and they have plenty.

Everyone else, in fact, should be so lucky.

Mary Lou Sanelli

Mary Lou Sanelli’s latest book is Among Friends. Check out Sanelli's website for upcoming spring appearances by the author.

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